Friday, November 7, 2008

Undecided

After taking 2 steps back from the whole situation and analying it, I finally realised that I'm a bloody fool and should have looked at the whole situation clearly before making a stupid decision. I've been sad and down for the last few days and it finally became clear to me that I still love her and that I made a mistake by pushing her away from me.

It was a very painful decision which turned into a very well learnt lesson for the both of us. I always believed that each and everybody has got to have their own breathing space and if either one of us does not have that space, then it will be difficult for the both of us to live together. After discovering that we need to have space for ourselves, she has begun to understand the whole mechanism of our relationship. Whe you do not grant your partners or spouses their own space, then they will feel stress and all bent out of shape because there isn't any outlet for them to realise their stress at the end of the day. This will hurt the relationship more and we will have more divorce cases in this world.

Even though I've not told her about what I've decide on the way back to the office, I think she'll be the most happiest person in this world when she hears this from me. I know I may have ill treated her the last few days, but I feel that this is important for us to move on to the next level of our relationship as a lot of things and matters has been ironed out and each of us has our own adjustments and improvements that needs to be made.

I always believed that if a person trully loves the other, they will change for them no matter how hard it is and this is a sign of true love. One way or the other, we have to make our own sacrifices to make the relationship work out at the end of the day. If this can't be done, then he or she is not the right one for you. 

Some people believe that looks is everything when it comes to choosing a spouse but I would say it is not true as I've seen many couples that is not the best looking people on this face of the earth but still they love each other with all their hearts. For me, a wife would be a person who takes good care of you, your home and also your children. She does not neccessaryly has to be a beauty paegent contestant or winner to qualify for the role but as long as she knows how to take care of everything, shares your problems with you and keep the finances in line, then it would the ideal person to share your life with.

Well...it was a well learnt lesson and I'm sure to do the right thing for a better future.

Till my next post........

Cheers


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